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Why Is Self-Knowledge So Important?
Source: Marjana Self-awareness enhances self-regulation, giving us greater self-control. Key points Self-knowledge enables us to be more compassionate toward others. Self-aware people are less likely to engage in blaming, gaslighting, or projection. By becoming more...
Growing Old Gracefully Requires Flexibility and Resilience
Source: Cecile_Arcurs/iStock Aging is not a time for excessive rigidity. Key points Resilience is necessary to cope effectively with the many changes of old age. Novelty and variety of experiences can strengthen adaptability. Daily problem-solving activities provide...
Whether to Speak Up or Stay Quiet
Source: Liubomyr Vorona / iStock Being assertive isn't always the best way to go. Key points Narcissists and other garrulous people, who are seldom receptive to others' messages, make mutuality unlikely. A conversation that has evolved into an "attack-counterattack"...
The Limits of Forgiveness
Forgiveness needs to be earned, not dispensed lightly. KEY POINTS Forgiveness can reinforce destructive behavior when the offender shows little remorse or behavioral change. Forgiveness for serious destructive patterns of behavior should come with strings attached....
Trying to Resolve Conflict Via Texting Can Create Confusion
The lack of nonverbal cues in texting often obscures the intended meaning. KEY POINTS The absence of nonverbal cues in emotional texting often creates more conflict. Nonverbal cues are a rich source of information about the honesty and seriousness of the speaker....
The Illusion of Control
KEY POINTS Viewing our scheduled activities rigidly--as if carved in stone--can lead to unnecessary stress when our expectations are not met. Trying to control others without their consent is likely to lead to underlying resentment, passive-aggression, or overtly...
Anger Can Cover Up a Whole Host of Feelings
Underlying feelings often need to be addressed before anger can be resolved. KEY POINTS Anger is off-putting, whereas hurt and disappointment engage the listener. Personality variables and moral values account for differences in propensity to anger. Anger often hides...
How Not to Raise a Narcissist
KEY POINTS Too much parental attention can lead to a child's inflated sense of self. An idealized self can be unrelenting in its demand for perfection in any given area. Teaching empathy and compassion toward others safeguards against unhealthy narcissism in children....
Why Is Our Advice to Family and Friends So Often Ignored?
KEY POINTS We typically pay less attention to familiar people than to acquaintances and near-strangers. We tend to perceive loved ones as they once were, not as they are. Mindfulness can be helpful in re-focusing on current realities, family, and close friends. All of...
Is There Such a Thing as Luck?
Photo by wirestock - www.freepik.com Some people seem to be born luckier than others. They always seem to be in the right place at the right time, regularly receiving good fortune. But does luck exist, or is it superstition? The English dictionary defines luck as “the...
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